I have been told not to disrespect a woman. I have been told, do not harass, beat, hurt, neglect, insult, accuse, abuse people around you. You are teaching me an absence of a behavior and I get what you are trying to tell me. But, how ‘am’ I supposed to behave?

What am I supposed to do when things don’t go the way I planned?

What should I do when I like someone and the liking is not reciprocated?

What should I do when people repeatedly walk over me once their needs from me are fulfilled?

What should I do when I want to get intimate with someone and they insult me for the way I look?

What should I do when I see the love of my life being cheated by a guy who does not even deserve her?

What should I do when I see someone who like my uncle, beats his wife and I feel like ripping the guy apart?

What should I do when my friends call me pansy for stopping them from eve teasing this girl in our college?

My wife insults my mother who has always suffered because of not being educated. What do I do when I feel like teaching my wife a lesson for insulting my mother?

My boss targets me for helping female employees and asks me to join ‘the big boys league’, what do I do?

The pharmacist sniggered at me because I went to buy sanitary napkins for my girlfriend. How do I respond?

I was never asked to do domestic chores at home and now my wife keeps insulting me in front of my in-laws for being a useless husband. What do I do?

I struggled with my grades and when I cried, my father asked me to ‘man up’ and take care of my problems myself. I want to hold someone and cry. What do I do?

My legs hurt and I am tired with the day’s work, but I am expected to ride the bike to the station and get my uncle home. What do I do?

I am struggling to meet ends and my wife is upset that I did not take her out for anniversary dinner. What do I do?

My daughter wants to marry a boy who is unemployed. I hate the way he looks at her. What do I do?

No one objected to me sleeping shirtless before and now my wife feels embarrassed because of my habits. What do I do?

My friends keep talking about their high salaries and new cars while I struggle with my father’s medical procedures. What do I do?

We men have been groomed to not ask such questions and live with a ‘let it be’ approach. We sulk, we avoid, we ignore because we cannot handle unpleasantness. We can exist the way we are and still be happy about it. The complications of relationships scare us because we have been keeping it simple all our lives. We don’t get pleasure in harming someone but we have not been taught how to deal with rejection and negativity. We love our mothers, wives, daughters, sisters and friends but don’t follow a rule book for expression. We were not encouraged in so many words for our little achievements, nor were we consoled at our defeats.

Your ‘Mills and Boons’ never reached our hands and we were always afraid of being stereotyped by our buddies if we ever happened to find one. We want your love but we do not get the need to make everything special as we never had so many expressions in our lives. We hate the Prince Charming you fantasize about and our mechanism towards anything we hate is to not be like that at all.

Yes, we loved your new dress and said it was nice, but trust us, we are not capable of writing poems on you. Just like you, we get nervous when our personal space is invaded and do not cause you discomfort knowingly.

We don’t understand how you fall for someone just because they say nice things to you. We could never soft groom ourselves to look presentable to you. Why do you struggle all the time on petty issues? Can we not let go of the argument and just have dinner? Eventually, we will be the one’s staying the night at a hospital bench if a family member is admitted to one.